因娶瓦妮莎而被父母抛弃，科比01年夺冠后闷闷不乐是因为他父亲？

“在2001年总决赛湖人做客费城的三场比赛中，科比的父亲完全不见了踪影。最终这轮系列赛以湖人夺冠而告终，但是赛后的科比却在淋浴间内捧着奖杯哭泣。当时人们都猜测科比是喜极而泣，或者终于一身轻松了。科比后来在接受洛杉矶时报采访时解释了原因：‘跟我爸有关’”

"When the LAL played 3 games in Philly during the 01 Finals, Kobe's dad was nowhere to be found. At the end of that series, the Lakers won and Kobe was spotted holding the trophy in the shower and crying, everyone assumed it was joy or relief. He later told the Times, 'That was about my dad.'"

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The falling out occurred in 2000, though neither Joe nor Kobe talks about it publicly anymore. At 21, Kobe got engaged to 18-year-old Vanessa Laine, whom he had met on the set of a video shoot when she was a high school senior. Joe did not approve. The problem, according to the Los Angeles Times, was that Joe was "uncomfortable that Vanessa, a Latina, is not African-American, and he is uneasy with [Kobe's] selfless devotion to her."

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原话：

科比与他父亲乔-布莱恩特的关系是在2000年开始恶化的，不过现在父子两人都不再公开谈论这件事了。科比首次邂逅瓦妮莎是在一个录制视频（纪录片）的现场，那时瓦妮莎还是个高三学生。后来，二十一岁的科比跟十八岁的瓦妮莎订了婚，而科比的父亲乔-布莱恩特并不赞成这桩亲事。根据洛杉矶时报的报道，问题的关键在于，乔对于瓦妮莎是拉丁裔而不是非裔美国人感到不舒服，而且科比对瓦妮莎的无私付出也让乔感到十分不爽。”

链接如下：https://www.si.com/vault/2012/05/14/106192721/where-does-greatness-come-from

When Kobe and Vanessa got married the following year, Joe and Pam didn't attend the wedding. When the Lakers played three games in Philadelphia during the 2001 NBA Finals, Joe was nowhere to be found. When, at the end of that series, the Lakers triumphed and Kobe was spotted holding the trophy in the shower and crying, everyone assumed it was out of joy, or relief. But he later told the Times, "That was about my dad."

当科比与瓦妮莎在随后一年走入婚姻殿堂的时候，科比的父母乔-布莱恩特与帕梅拉-布莱恩特都没有出席他的婚礼。在2001年总决赛湖人做客费城的三场比赛中，科比的父亲完全不见了踪影。最终这轮系列赛以湖人夺冠而告终，但是赛后的科比却在淋浴间内捧着奖杯哭泣。当时人们都猜测科比是喜极而泣，或者终于一身轻松了。科比后来在接受洛杉矶时报采访时解释了原因：‘跟我爸有关’。

[–]HeatErectusPenor 784 指標 5小時前

Damn, that's sad. I can't imagine denying the feelings of my son because his partner of choosing isn't the same color as you. Even when your son is a god damn NBA champion all that matters is that he "betrayed" his race

我去，这有点悲伤啊。就因为儿子找了个跟自己肤色不同的对象，你就把儿子拒之心外？无法想象啊。你的儿子可特么的是NBA总冠军啊，结果在你这里“背叛”他的种族才是真正重要的事情。

[–]LakersJesusSama 390 指標 5小時前

His relationship with his parents has been REALLY bad as a whole.

He sued the auction company that his parents contracted that sold a bunch of his stuff including a commemorative NBA championship ring. They gave it to the auction company so that they, the parents, could buy a new house.

湖人球迷：总的来说，科比跟他爸妈的关系一直非常非常差。

科比曾经起诉了一家拍卖公司，因为他的父母把他的一大堆东西拿去拍卖，那里面甚至包括了一枚有很大象征意义的总冠军戒指。科比父母这样做的原因仅仅是为了能买一栋新房子。

相关新闻链接：http://www.espn.com/los-angeles/nba/story/_/id/9360162/kobe-bryant-memorabilia-lawsuit-settled-parents-apologize

He even went so far to pen a letter to himself basically about his side of the family. It was basically a veiled lesson to others but fanned out a bit of his dirty laundry.

科比后来甚至给亲笔给自己写了一封信[译注1]，基本上是从他角度出发阐明了对家人的态度。对于其他人来说，这封信基本上算是一个比较隐晦的教训，但同时科比也向世人揭示了自己的家丑。

[译注1]科比曾于2016年在《球星看台》上发布过一遍亲笔信：【虎扑中文翻译】科比亲笔：写给年轻时的自己>>

[–]CelticsNdbdncofowpeh 205 指標 4小時前

Come on you’re not even giving their side of it. He married a Mexican girl, so obviously it was a justified relatiation.

凯尔特人球迷：拜托，你并没有站在科比父母的角度上去思考问题呀！科比可是娶了一个墨！西！哥女孩儿啊！所以科比父母跟科比反目成仇也是绝对绝对有道理的！手动狗头。

[–]RaptorsEustassKiddd 100 指標 4小時前*

This is also a sad reality for people whos parents are immigrants. I am coloured but I had to end a 3 year long relationship because my parents would never accept her due to her being a different ethnicity. It was either her or my family.

Shit fucked me up for a bit man, I understand Kobe

猛龙球迷：对于那些父母是移民的人来说，这也确实是个残酷的现实。我就属于有色人种，我之前因为父母的竭力反对而不得不终结一段三年的恋情，就因为她不是我们种族的。我家里的意思就是“有她没我们，有我们没她”。

那是真的TM让我心痛如刀绞。我真的理解科比。

[–][GSW] Draymond Greenjthc 158 指標 4小時前

That's when you've got to put your foot down, otherwise they'll control you forever. I gave my parents an ultimatum when I married a girl of a different race: this is my life and you have to respect my choices if you want to be a part of my life.

你就该坚定立场硬气一把，不然你爸妈会永远操纵你的生活。当我要娶一个其他种族的妹子时，我就给我爸妈下了最后通牒：这是我自己的人生，如果你们想要成为我生活的一部分，就必须尊重我的选择。

[–]RaptorsEustassKiddd 93 指標 4小時前*

I understand that completely but in my case if your son is marrying a girl that isn't the same race then your entire family gets ridiculed, if I left them my entire family would suffer by being looked down upon that their son ran off with that type of girl. It would cause them endless pain due to how much value they put on these things. It was a very tough decision

刚才的猛龙球迷：我完全你的意思。但是就我的情况而言，（在我们那儿）如果你的儿子娶了一个其他种族的妹子，那么你整个家庭都会被别人笑话的。如果我由于跟我心爱的人私奔而抛弃全家老小，那么我的家人们就会被别人看不起，因为儿子竟然跟那种类型的女孩跑了。由于他们对这些事情看的很重，所以你建议的做法会给他们带来无尽的痛苦。所以对我来讲，跟她分手真的是艰难的决定。

Why am I being down voted for this? I'm literally just explaining why this happens and why it was an extremely difficult decision

为啥这么多人灭我？我只是单纯在解释为什么这件事会发生，为什么我的决定那么艰难。

[–]HeatErectusPenor 25 指標 4小時前

What culture is this and where do you live?

这是啥文化啊，你住在哪呀？

[–]RaptorsEustassKiddd 48 指標 4小時前

Middle Eastern living in Toronto

猛龙球迷：我是住在多伦多的中东人。

[–]DumbIMGstudent 81 指標 4小時前*

Problem with Middle Eastern, Pakistani, Indian parents, they love to play that guilt card.

I remember as a pakistani being in love with a hindu indian girl and my parents flipped too. I honestly never loved another girl as much as her and I'm currently married (to a paki).

像什么中东、巴基斯坦和印度的家长啊，他们总是爱打苦情牌好让你有罪恶感。

我是个巴基斯坦人，我还记得我曾经爱上了一个印度妹子，我父母那会儿也是翻脸了。说实话，我爱她胜过世界上的一切，然而我现在跟一个巴基斯坦人结婚了。

The other dude is right though, do what makes you happy. Your parents will eventually come around when they see the grandchild. No grandparent can resist giving love to their grandchild.

那哥们儿的话的确也有些道理，你应该做能让你自己开心的事。当你有了儿女，你的父母最终还是会想明白的。毕竟没有不疼爱自己孙子孙女的爷爷奶奶。

It did teach me a life lesson though, I will do anything for my children's happiness. If they want to marry a girl of a different race or religion, idgaf. It is their life to live and I have no right to have control over the decisions they make as an adult. Nor will I ever guilt trip them and say stupid bullshit about how bad it looks to the entire family. What do I care about more, my children's happiness or the opinion of my entire family?

不过这确实也给我上了一课：我会为了我孩子们的幸福而做任何事情。如果他们愿意娶一个来自其他种族或者信仰其他..的女孩儿，我特么才不管呢。这是他们的生活，我没有权利去干涉他们成年后所做出的决定。我也绝对不会打什么苦情牌，绝对不会告诉他们这样做会让整个家族看上去有多蠢什么的，这都是些屁话。我是更关心我自己孩子们的幸福，还是外界对我家庭的看法？

You're a good person for choosing family over love, but REAL family would never let that be an option. Rather they would show acceptance to whom you love.

你在家人与爱情之间选择了前者，你是个好人。但真正的家人是不会给你出二选一的选择题的。相反，他们会接纳你所爱的人。

Edit - another example, my one cousin ran away and married a bengali girl. His whole family was against it and they were ridiculed by the elders of the family (none of them have more than a HS degree). Now they love his wife and once they got to know her, they realized she is a total sweetheart and has her head on straight. This whole race/religion shit with Middle Eastern and South Asians is a bunch of bullshit.

编辑：我再举另外一个例子吧，我的一个表兄弟跟一个孟加拉妹子私奔并且结婚了，他的家人们当初都反对这件事，而且他们也确实被家族里的长辈所嘲笑（这些长辈最多高中毕业）。不过现在，他们的家人都爱上了这个儿媳妇，在他们深入了解儿媳妇后，他们意识到她是个难得的好妹子，而且头脑也很清楚。中东和南亚地区这套什么种族和..的屁话简直就是狗屎。

[–]Lakersso-cal_kid 89 指標 5小時前

I remember hearing about this as a kid growing up in LA and being so confused about it. Like why would his dad care she was Latina when half of LA is Latino/latina? Obviously I was a dumb kid.

湖人球迷：我在洛杉矶长大，当我还是个小屁孩的时候就听说过科比的这件事情，当时我感到非常困惑。为啥他爸会对瓦妮莎是拉丁裔而感到不满呢？洛杉矶有一半人都是拉丁裔啊！很显然，我那时候就是个傻不愣登的小孩。

[–][LAL] Lamar OdomKlaxosaur 135 指標 4小時前

Nah. You're normal and didnt see race an issue.

湖人球迷：兄弟，不是这么回事。你是正常人，正常人不把种族视作问题。

[–]Blueandigo 82 指標 5小時前*

My dad didn't attend my wedding and he was upset that I was getting married. We're good to go now but it upset me and it still does because I just wish he would've been there. I'll never have that moment again and I think about it everyday. It scares me to even have kids because I always wonder would be approve of it or would he be upset if I did. I just want him to accept my decisions.